GRRR What a morning. But then a tiny Miracle happened.

Ok before I rant, I have to admit I have nobody to blame but myself but still Grrrr.

       Ok school starts next Monday and students entering certain grades need certain shots. Ok I thought my youngest was all caught up. So I called the Pediatrician just to double check. I also asked them to get a copy of his shot records together for me to pick up. Well, I called this Monday and they said they would call me back. I didn't get a call Tuesday, so I called back this morning. Apparently he is missing one needed shot. They said that he has to have a physical before he gets the shot, and the earliest time they can give me is the Friday after school starts. They won't let him in school without it, so that will mean he will miss the whole first week of school. Well I know (I am pretty sure) he had this particular shot when he had to get stitches a few years ago.That was in a Hospital in a different county because we were on a camping trip at the time. However, I don't have documentation for this. I called the Hospital two counties over where he got the stitches, and asked for the medical records department. They of course won't tell me anything over the phone. They say I have to go there in person and sign a release form. That is 150 miles away and I am not 100% positive he got the shot then, I only believe he did. I called one walk in Clinic and they won't give the shot without a physical and they can't give a complete physical without his medical records. I called medical records office at the pediatricians and they are swamped and can't pull and have his records till this Friday at the earliest.  

        I procrastinated getting him this years physical because I had mistakenly thought he was all caught up on his shots. Also, he didn't need another one yet for Scouts because the one he had on file was good for 3 years.

      So I am mad at myself!!!! If I can get his records Friday and get him into the walk in Clinic for the shot, he still has a chance of being able to start school on time.  If not, he will be late starting school. It's my fault for procrastinating and not checking earlier!!! This extra shot (a booster) is a relatively new requirement. My older kids didn't need it.

    Guess what happened while typing this!!! It pays to be nice! 

    When I called the Pediatricians office first thing this morning, the nurse was a bit defensive with me and gave me the standard lecture of how it was my responsibility, I should have not waited to the last minute etc.  I didn't get snippy - I agreed with her that it was my fault. I told that I just now needed to know how to proceed  and how to get this taken care of.

    Well she just called back!  I guess, because I was nice and not like all the other grumpy parents who waited to the last minute, they are going to work me in tomorrow morning. She called back and asked if I was able to contact the other hospital and I had told her no that they wouldn't give me any info over the phone, that I would have to drive there in person. I think she felt sorry for me. Yeah!! It pays to be nice and accept responsibility for ones actions and not blame others for your mistakes. Oh and repentance and prayer helps too. :-)

Children That Move Back Home. What Limits? The Kitchen, Food, TV, Computer, Hanging Around the House Battles.

     As she is a good kid and has good friends this is mostly about our recent kitchen and food battles. Also what limits for TV, computer, hanging around the house or in her room all day etc.

  

       Ok I was sad when my daughter went away to college last year. Now that she has moved back in for the summer, she is driving me crazy!! She didn't go that far away to the University. It is only 10 or 12 miles from our house, but we moved her into the dorm. She needed the independence for confidence,  and we thought it would give her more of the college experience.  She is by nature a homebody which I use to think was nice. She is a very good straight laced level headed kid.  She has now moved back home for the summer. She has a part time job close by, however, her schedule does NOT coincide with our schedule.  For instance: she stays up late in her room on her computer till the wee hours of the morning.  When she was in high school she used one of the family computers downstairs and was restricted access at certain times of the day. But we did buy her her own laptop for college. So now she stays up late and gets up at almost noon. I have served and cleaned up breakfast by that time, and it isn't lunchtime, so and I've closed the kitchen. I tell her she just needs to wait till lunch time. So she uses her money to get junk food at the 7/11 down the street. Stuff I would never buy and don't like her eating. Grrr. When she was at college she had the freedom to eat where and when she wanted. I have found I can only pull in the reigns so far. It is my kitchen. I make my 12 year old and my older son and hubby eat what I fix. I don't make separate meals for everyone although I do take food preferences into consideration when meal planning. Same thing happens when she gets home from work. I save food for her but she buys her own then wants to mess up my kitchen at 10 oclock at night after she gets back from work.  Next year she will move into a dorm with a kitchen and will have to prepare her own food. She will not be on the meal plan. She knows how to plan frugal healthy meals she just doesn't do it.  That bugs me! Maybe it shouldn't bug me. I need to let go and let her be more independent. 

Chores. She still does chores now that she has moved back in. She of course does her laundry. She keeps her room clean (not always to my standards) but ok. She only stays out late at work. I actually wish she would do more with her friends which are all good kids. She is a homebody and just wants to hang at home when she isn't working. I keep the TV off during the day. Actually we got rid of satellite and only have broadcast now. I hate regular TV and we really only use the TV now to watch dvd's. The only show I care to watch is "According to Jim".  She likes to turn the TV on during the day and watch junk. Ok I put my foot down and say the downstairs is my space so I want the TV off. Well she can just go to her room and watch you tube or itunes or netflix movies on her computer. I want her to get out and do some activities on her own! I don't want her underfoot. She has good values and is not a trouble maker or anything which is awesome, but I also don't want her sitting around the house during the summer. She commuted to the University and took one class this summer which she aced, but that session is over now. I have to look, but I know she doesn't go back till the end of August .

   When you have little kids, you as the mom control almost every aspect of their lives. It is soo different when they are young adults.  I can only pray that we have raised her well and that she will make good choices. I only have so much control anymore as to what she wears, eats, watches on TV or who she hangs out with. So even though it bugs me that she doesn't make the exact choices I would I have to let it go and know that it is OK.

    She loves God.  She is a faithful Christian. She still loves going to Church with us and doing things with us as a family. She gets along with her brothers. She has a 3.8 GPA at the University and 2 scholarships which pay for almost everything. She saves her money, and for the most part (except for the junk food) knows the value of a dollar and spends her money wisely. She is not spoiled. 

 

   Just pray I survive the summer. Letting her go back to the dorm in the fall is going to be so much easier than last year. :-)